Monday, November 28, 2016

Menopause: Let the Hectivities* Begin!

Last year, I was able to get my house all pulled together for a home tour, because that's what bloggers do.

In the house where my children grew up, I had three trees (themed!) and a huge mantle dressed to the nines and AT LEAST ten different kinds of cookies (all homemade!) and  a mailbox wreath and a door wreath and a zillion candles and holly all over the place. Rustic in the den, formal in the living and dining rooms, metallic in the kitchen and breakfast room, etcetera, etcetera, and so forth.

And now? Ain't nobody got time for that.

All I can think of, as I haul down the boxes from the attic, is 'why?'

No one cares about this $hit anymore. Kid #1 has moved home (where he never lived because we bought a smaller house SO THIS WOULD NOT HAPPEN) as he awaits information on PhD programs. He's thrown a mattress in the loft room (where there's no HVAC, but whatever) and taken up a small corner of the living room with an enormous television and several boxes full of the stuff he couldn't put in storage.

Kid #2 will be home for three days because, you know, NEW YORK IS SO MUCH BETTER and if I didn't beg, she would never come home at all.

All you moms out there who are stressing over getting everything picture perfect and decorating trees with just specific colors and buffalo check ribbon and you can only wrap presents in red or white (because my neighbor would NOT ALLOW A PRESENT UNDER THE TREE UNLESS IT WAS WRAPPED IN THE RIGHT COLOR) and you need a million different kinds of cookies because you don't love them enough if you don't have an assortment....

This, too, shall pass.

If I knew then what I knew now?  I would pare Christmas back by 75%. I would stress less and enjoy more. I would use the creative energy on something that lasts more than six weeks, like that dang novel. I would save all the money I spent creating "new looks" and I'd be able to retire earlier. Or buy kid #2 more plane tickets to fly home to see her old mom.

But I didn't. 

This year? I'll put up my one tree and use my old decorations and keep stuff simple because I want to focus on the three days we're all together instead of being too tired to enjoy it.

Little moms better post pictures so I can live vicariously through you!

  *Hectivities - hectic festivities
**Hective - a cross between festive and hectic


Art and Sand said...

I still decorate, for myself, but I have pared back considerably.

When our kids became adults, we switched from expensive presents to family vacations at Christmas. For many years it was skiing, but with Steve's artificial shoulder we aren't skiing and paying for the kids lift tickets became ridiculous - $100 + per day! Several years it was Kauai, but buying airlines tickets got expensive when each kid brought along a significant other. This year, we rented a house in Carmel, everyone will do their own thing during the day, family meals will be shared at night and our greatest present will be time together.

Art and Sand said...

I did neglect to mention that the usual sibling rivalry, despite them being adults, always makes for an interesting week!

Junkchiccottage said...

LOL Kirby!!! I still love the holidays and decorating, baking etc. etc. but I too have scaled way back this year to enjoy the down hill slide of the holidays. My theme this year is less is more!!!! With moving into a smaller home doesn't much room for decorations. Enjoy your time with your kids.

Heidi @ Decor & More said...

Aw, hang in there, Kirbs! Next year will look totally different, I'm sure... in the meantime, just enjoy the time with your peeps. xoxo

Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

Good for you- I agree that I have these thoughts when I am too exhausted to haul another box of stuff downstairs- all the while thinking of hauling it all back upstairs in a few weeks. Mommy's exhausted!
Enjoy the time with your kids and this "in between" time. When grandkids arrive, you'll want to go all out again!

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

Every year I get closer an closer to NOT decorating at all. It seems as soon as I start opening boxes, I just have to put this or that out. I change my mind every year about the decorations and buy new stuff so I have a small Christmas shop in my basement! I really hate the putting stuff away to make room for the Christmas stuff but when it is time to put the Christmas stuff away, it is like having a new house again! I don't know why I struggle with it every year, because in the end I still decorate ALOT. Not there yet, I guess!

karen@somewhatquirky said...

We've pared down because I'm having my knee replaced on the 12th. I'm doing whatever I can with the vintage ornaments that I've been saving in the basement for a big project. I will not be pulling out any boxes that have to be carried downstairs and the carried back up give or six weeks later. I do decorate for myself. If it translates well to the blog, that's just great. If it doesn't, well I guess it won't go viral and make me famous.

Bliss said...

Maybe your daughter can invite all six of my kids and their families to the big apple next year for Christmas. I'll stay home with no reason to do a darn thing. But I'd probably miss them all huh?

Tuula @ Thrifty Rebel Vintage said...

Oh, I can so relate to this Kirby. Up to about 4 years ago we were the Griswold's of our area, and even won a house decorating competition a few years in a row. When my part time job went to full time I had no time for that anymore and lo and behold I discovered that Christmas still came without all the over the top decorating. Not only did it still come, but it came with so much peace and relaxation that I don't ever want to go back to that again. I only put out the things that really mean something to me and I do still love to do a few Christmas projects, and decorate our two trees. Simple is so much better, and makes for a very enjoyable Christmas season. One day we'll have to sell off the contents of our Christmas shed, and maybe we'll take a winter vacation with the winfall. lol.

Shirley@Housepitality Designs said...

Believe it or not I have pared down this year....and plan to do that even more next year as I will donate more decorations...donated lots last year....but the treasured memory decorations will stay forever!

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