Friday, October 7, 2016

Why I'm not reading your blog

(But it's're probably not reading mine, either.)

I began blogging in 2006, first on another platform and then here in 2009. I began as a result of my job (teaching) becoming less creative and more scripted, and I needed at creative outlet that was quick and easy and relatively mess-free. As an English teacher, writing something that I could immediately publish was the answer. (It also allowed me to live out my fantasy as a retired English teacher, writing mysteries of a living, like my favorite fictitious author.)

I certainly wasn't the only blogger, nor was I the best blogger, but it was fun--and in time, I met other bloggers who became friends after a fashion. We read each others blogs and commented on the posts and some of us worked on projects together and did whatever we could to be supportive.

But things have changed in the blogging world, and the industry has been touted as a way to make real money in your own home on your own schedule. All you have to do is....(Fill in the blank here with various plug-ins and whatnot. Mostly whatnot.)

Folks have aligned themselves, sort of like an episode of Survivor, and the same people are participating in the same stuff and we've all seen the stuff from those particular folks. Everyone jumps on whatever boat is floating until it gets too heavy and then it's on to whichever boat is leaving port next.

And then there are the many, many ads. Pop-up ads that take forever to load and then the message that a plug-in isn't working and why am I looking at LL Cool J on every. Single. Blog. If it takes five minutes for your blog to load? I have moved on.

One of the comforting things regarding this post is that the folks to whom I am speaking aren't reading my blog any longer, despite the fact that we were friends, after a fashion. My steadfast readers either (a) don't blog themselves, or (b) are still using a blog as a creative outlet, and not as some giant money-making machine. 

So, dear readers, read away. I will not hassle you with a bunch of pop-up ads or other annoying stuff. I'm rarely asked to be a part of any kind of blog hop, and my self-promotion gene is non-existent. What you will get here is a quirky outlook on middle-age and photos of a house that looks like the set of Murder, She Wrote presented by a blogger who wouldn't mind being Jessica Fletcher.


Debbie Freitag said...

I absolutely loved this post. I'm not a regular blogger, I try but fall off the blogging wagon most of the time. I used to follow so many fun blogs but lately I've deleted them because they either simply copy a bunch of pinterest pics, fill their blogs with ad after ad, or write sponsored posts and none are ever that interesting.
I don't post many comments but I will tell you that I love your blog and particularly this post!

Laura @ duke manor farm said...

i have always appreciated your quirk and honesty Kirby...and hey, what's so wrong with LL Cool J ? :)

Cassie Bustamante said...

i do have ads because, especially now that it's public knowledge, i no longer have any other source of income! ;) but i agree that everything is the SAME and i get so frustrated... i want to see unique things and people with different styles and i feel like so much is the same leaving me uninspired. it's also hard when your style doesn't fit the mold of what's popular, but i just don't wanna be farmhouse.

SimplySingleSenior said...

Love this post. I am a very new blogger and am also blogging just for fun. I have no interest in blog hops, ads, etc. I often feel I have nothing interesting to say so my posts are sporadic. I don't really have a niche either -- I guess I post by the seat of my pants on whatever happens to catch my fancy. Yours is one that is an inspiration to me so keep on keeping on!

Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

Three chears for this post, Kirby. I have seriously thought of ending my blog adventure so many times because of eveything you just addressed.
I will never have ads and I really am so bored with looking at what looks like mass produced copy cat blogs that all look the same. I started reading your blog years ago because you make me laugh out loud. You are hilarious and witty and I enjoy your writing. I actually like "reading" a blog- not just scrolling thru photos and leaving a mindless comment.
So please just stay true to yourself and keep entertaining me. I beg you.
Your biggest fan (not the Misery type),
Love, Teen Wolf

Empty Nester said...

I have tried to promote myself in the past but, to be honest, I'm pretty sure I'm not promotion worthy. So, I just write about my family and throw in an opinion here and there and enjoy myself. It really is more fun that way. :)

Kathleen George said...

Hello! I don't remember when I found you, but you had posted about your teaching job and I thought how you reminded me of some of teachers that I worked with when I was an aide. I love your writing and sense of humor. Go ahead and be Mrs. Fletcher, love that show! Please continue on with your wonderful blog.
Kathleen in Az
oh! You made me laugh so hard with your reviews on DA!

Andrea said...

I feel a little less lonely now! (And of course you always hold a dear spot for wearing a cape) ;)

Rita C. said...

I've quit reading several blogs for the very same reasons. The statement that usually gets me to unsubscribe or remove a blog from my blog roll the fastest is when an entire audience readership is given a lecture in a post - condescendingly in a number of ways IMO - that said bloggers need readers to understand that their blogs could not exist without those ads paying for the...what? incentive? creativity? things they buy or get in exchange? Pat would've very much appreciated this post.
Have a good weekend, Kirby.

andi filante said...

I. Love. You.

You have echoed my every thought. In fact, I resent you a little bit for writing this post before I had the chance (just kidding). =D

People have the right to earn money on their blogs, but no one has earned a dime from me, since I've never clicked on an ad nor made a purchase. There are so many blogs I once loved to read, but I can't wade through the ads either.

I could go on forever. Thanks for this post. It was so very timely and appropriate. Blog on, my friend!!


Sherry @ Thrift My House said...

Amen sister!!! I've quit blogging ( in my head) so many times... And then I remind myself why I started in the first place! A creative outlet, to share with like minded people, to have a little something to call mine. I've been tempted with the whole making money bit... But I've decided it's not worth the effort. I've had ads for over a year now and I don't think I've made 30 bucks... As for sponsored posts, I've done a few and they weren't "fun." And the tech part of knowing how to get more traffic etc... I have no idea! I haven't blogged much this past year because it just takes too much time which I haven't had much of lately. I have thought about deleting my blog and share on IG and fb instead. I've enjoyed IG because it's quick and easy and I can still chat with blog friends there. Idk! I hate the pop up ads and I too leave the site especially if a lot of stuff keeps loading... It seems so competitive. I've also considered going back to sharing for the sake of sharing! Well I vented... Thanks Kirby! Send me a bill:)
And I do read;)

Rose L said...

I am also tired of the ads, which make it so hard to read most blogs who have them. My blog has no "theme," just an outlet for whatever I want to post; photographs, poetry, ideas, etc. I would never think of doing ads. I enjoy the ones that are ad-free.

Heidi @ Decor & More said...

Amen!! Can't take the ads anymore... ain't nobody got time for that!
xo Heidi

Linda @ it all started with paint said...

Well, now I feel bad about my blog and my blog's ads and any and all sponsor posts I've ever written and any blog hops I've ever participated in.

But in my defense, I need my blogs to pay for college education for my kids. So is that such a bad thing? Do I deserve to be bashed for trying to make the lives of my family and my children better?

Good Time Charlie said...

I 100% agree with everything you wrote, and for the record, when I have time to check out your blog, I live hat it doesn't look like everyone else's home!

Good Time Charlie said...

I love that there are bloggers who are earning a good income from their blogs and I love that there are blogs like yours, just expressing what is on their mind.
I still don't know what I want from my blog, but I like getting the Trent bit of income and I love having a place to express my thoughts and my junk.

Summer said...

Staying true to yourself with blogging is so important ♥

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

I am with you 100% and I don't even wait 5 minutes for a post to load if there are a bunch of ads! I never get asked to participate in this or that blog hop or home tour or whatever and I am glad! So many times I have read of someone joining in and then soon stepping down. It is just too much work! I post when I want, I read others posts when I want and almost always comment. No pressure here!!

Bliss said...

Is that Brandywine???? Guess you're not referring to me since I'm still reading, but you've probably noticed I've got no house tour so won't be attending any home hops.

karen@somewhatquirky said...

You just hit the tip of the iceberg . . . So many things that could be said and you hit a lot of important ones. I'd love to sit down and just have a long bitch session about this.

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