Monday, June 20, 2016

Menopause: Truth

Do you know what I love about being in my fifties? Weight gain!! (No, I'm actually lying about this.) 

I love owning my $hit. Not trying to hide or fudge my way if I am 'not getting it.' I just say "I don't get it," and hope someone will explain.

I also get to say I don't like something. Not in an ugly way, of course...but I can say something like "I can't believe you didn't stop at that antique store. I'm sure if an asteroid had hit the earth you would have stopped then" to my husband when he drives. (I HATE going on road trips with him because he never stops. Now that I'm in my fifties, I tell him he'd better or I will call his mom and/or not wash his clothes. I'm not above a threat, on occasion. Plus, I have a bad hip and he knows I'll be going to the emergency room if I don't get out to walk around once in awhile.)

When I was younger, I was afraid to tell people what I thought. I was of the "smile and nod" school. I believed it was better to not say anything than to risk hurting someone's feelings or making someone uncomfortable, instead taking that discomfort upon myself.

Why do we do this? Because from the time we are little, we are told that we have to be "nice." And for some of us, "nice" was translated as "weak and doormat-ish." Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with nice. In fact, nice works most of the time. But where does nice stop and subservient begin?

Downton Abbey, you were my light and my life. Why did you forsake me??

When you are nice, people can take advantage of you. You don't want to hurt someone's feelings. (That's when the $hit can hit the fan, right Anna?) 

Now that I have lived on this earth for fifty-six years, I am not afraid to tell people what I think. I try to do so kindly, and they do not have to like it (I have a couple of friends, so if I don't make any more, then it's okay). But I will be speaking my truth from now on, because it shall set me free.

Speak your truth today, peeps.


Kim said...

Lol, so true. I always smiled and nodded but lately I can speak up better. Not mean but if I don't want to do something I just say No

Art and Sand said...

I FINALLY watched (binged on) season 6 of Downton Abbey. I loved this season so much and was so sad when it ended.

andi filante said...

I totally spoke the truth to my new manager the other day and am so glad I did. Getting off on the right (or is that wrong??) foot.


Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

Sing it, sister!
I just saw a t-shirt with "I drink and I know things" which sent me into a fit of giggles. I think you should wear one.

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

Yes, we have those benefits of being in our fifties. I often play the "I am developing dementia, so don't mind me" card which is often true! I try not to speak my mind every time a situation calls for it but my face gives me away every time!

Heidi @ Decor & More said...

AMEN!! Hope your summer is off to a great start and there are some antique stops in your future! ;-)
xo Heidi

Terrie Sherbon said...

I was talking to this young man in customer service on the phone the other day. He said "Ma'am, I just don't think I can help you." I said "Kid, I am 64 years old and ran out of patience years ago - let me speak to an adult." The lady I got was laughing when she answered the phone. She said he was appalled that I called him kid. But she answered my questions and though she couldn't give me everything I wanted I was satisfied with the results. I tell people that I used all my patience raising my son - there isn't any left so beware.

Marie Blackburn said...

High five and Amen Sistah! One of the best perks of being a member of the Nifty Fifty Club.

Bliss said...

It's a lot easier to speak the truth to people when at least one other person in close proximity speaks the same truth as I do.

karen@somewhatquirky said...

Amen sister! I've owned my own shit for a long time now. And Mike and I have managed to work out some sort of arrangement where he does not comment or complain when I ask him to stop when we are traveling. (95% of the time) Either that or I have just figured out how to not notice... I totally get the whole hip thing!

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