Friday, January 1, 2016

Word of the year


  1. 1.
    (of a person) in a particular place.
    "a doctor must be present at the ringside"
    synonyms:in attendance, heretherenearnearby, (close/near) at hand,available
    "a doctor must be present at the ringside"
  2. 2.
    existing or occurring now.
    "she did not expect to find herself in her present situation"
    synonyms:currentpresent-dayexisting
    "the present economic climate"
noun
  1. 1.
    the period of time now occurring.
    "they are happy and at peace, refusing to think beyond the present"
    synonyms:nowtoday, the present time/moment, the here and now
    "forget the past and think about the present"

    Not gonna lie about it...life around here has become unmanageable.  

    I have missed out on a lot this year because I have been pulled in a dozen different directions. This Christmas, I missed out on social events because I simply forgot about them.  My health is suffering in the form of high blood pressure, weight gain, and skin breakouts (which I haven't had since the last millennium). I am constantly holding my breath, and I can feel my brain shake inside my skull sometimes. It scares me.

    In addition, the death of my wonderful life-long friend, Hoop (she was my first regular reader here, back when I first launched Kirb Appeal), has opened my eyes to the fact that my time here is waning, and I need to enjoy every single second of it. I need to be sure that I am focused on the things that matter, and shed the mantle of the things that don't.

    (That's not the mantel that you decorate, it's the other one.)

    man·tle1

    ˈman(t)l/
    noun
    1. 1.
      a loose sleeveless cloak or shawl, worn especially by women.
      synonyms:cloakcapeshawlwrapstole
      historicalpelisse
      "a dark green velvet mantle"
    2. 2.
      an important role or responsibility that passes from one person to another.
      "the second son has now assumed his father's mantle"
      synonyms:roleburdenonusdutyresponsibility
      "the mantle of leadership"

    The message for the year is this: Be Present. Focus on this moment, right now. Don't dwell on past mistakes, or worry about future ones. Concentrate on what you are doing TODAY, and don't willingly take on more than you can handle at any given time. Say "Enough" when you have to. Prioritize every day, and make some of those priorities things you WANT to do, rather than HAVE to do. I'm going to come back to this post frequently in order to remember my own advice.

    Happy New Year to all!!

15 comments:

babsinmass said...

Dear Kirby,

I'm going to make a few copies of this and strategically place them so I can read this daily and often.

Well said!

Happy, healthy new year.

babs

kz1000st said...

I wish Sara had lived that way. On one hand she would say, "I think it's the stress that caused the cancer" and then worry about the boys, the house, the dogs, the bills and when her next Chemo appointment was. Take it one step at a time Kirby. The big picture just overwhelms us.

marty (A Stroll Thru Life) said...

Good advice, I need to learn this too. Happy New Year

Cassie @ Primitive & Proper said...

beautifully said- take care of yourself, my friend. i am so sorry for your loss. i hope that 2016 is a healthy and happy year for you full of little moments that add up to something big and beautiful.

Kathleen George said...

You couldn't of said it better. You are so right. Health, if not mental health is number one, that for some is last on their plate ( and some, sadly not in their control ). Excellent post for the new year.
Please take care and I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend.
Kathleen in Az

Linda @ A La Carte said...

This is something we all need to do. As we get older it even more important. Thank you for reminding me of this!

Lynette Hallauer said...

Happy New Year, Kirby. Hope 2016 is a better year.

Debbiedoos said...

It's definitely a powerful message here you have! I agree. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. I will be 50 in a few months and it is really hitting me hard in the head. I don't mentally feel it, but physically I have aches and pains that are signs of arthritis. My motto this year is live, enjoy, and just simply have as much fun as you can, when you can. Happy New year Kirby! xo

Jean | DelightfulRepast.com said...

Kirby, I just discovered your blog today! I'm sorry for your loss and your health blip, but I think you're on the right track with this "Present" thing. I've had a little sign in my entry for decades that says "Be Here Now" and that is something I have to constantly remind myself to do. May we both succeed with that worthy goal! Wishing you a wonderful 2016.

Good Time Charlie said...

I am so sorry about the loss of your friend! I am sharing your post on my FB page, PRESENT is something I have been struggling with for the past year. This post is a wonderful reminder to me to be present. As in, not taking every single problem and person with me into the shower, in the car, when I am going about my day. It's hard, but mindfulness can be achieved. I hope your health improves and your stress level reduces. Happy New Year friend. I am off to meditate now......

Rose L said...

I had many health issues in 2015, half of the year! Normally I am fine and so active. But I will not give in or give up. I want to enjoy my life, my friends, my world. I love going out with my camera and focusing on the world around me. If you look close, you can find many astonishing things. I get so excited and moved by it all. If I just walked I would probably think on the problems in my life, in others lives and the world, but with the camera it brings my focus into the wonderfully beautiful world God gave us. The details will amaze you. And when I share my photographs, I feel like I am sharing the joy and awe I felt. Maybe you need to re-focus.
I do hope the new year helps to fill you with joy and you feel so much better.

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

I love that word for the year. It is what I have been consciously trying to do for a long time. No waiting till this or that happens...just live in the here and now and enjoy it! I am so sorry for the loss of your friend and for your health issues getting in the way! It can be too easy to just let ailments take a lot of time out of my life, so I try to push through to create some form of quality of life. It becomes the new normal and is better than giving in to how discouraging it can be. I wish for you better health in 2016!!

Rita C. said...

Happy New Year, Kirby. I hope you'll be able to achieve the healthy balance you want for yourself this year, and keep your witty perspective, too.
Rita

Heidi @ Decor & More said...

I will be praying for you on your to be present this year, Kirby... our time is a precious thing, isn't it? Praying that God relieves you of your burdens, restores your health, and floods your days with happiness this year. Hugs, my friend!
xo Heidi

Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

Nothing will happen, Kirbs...let that stuff go and enjoy what feeds your spirit!
Love you, Teen Wolf

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