Saturday, October 3, 2015

Still working those 12-hour days, so...

I hate feeling like I am writing a "cop-out" post.

You know...one of the posts you write because you know you need to write SOMETHING because it's been two weeks and if you don't post something TODAY, all of your readers will forsake you. (Which is a lie, because my readers are middle-aged women who tend to stick with each other through thick and thin!! That's what's cool about being over fifty!!)


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But then I remembered that I was writing about fixing up my wardrobe because I'm tired of dressing like a 78 year-old retired schoolteacher (which I will be in 23 more years, lawd willing and the crick don't rise) and I want to start dressing like I give a crap. (Which I do, when I'm not exhausted.)

I wrote about my closet dilemma after I read Tim Gunn's book (I *heart* him) and now I am reading the Japanese chick's book about tidying up and have come to the conclusion that I need a serious intervention.

Those ideas, plus all the folks who are doing "fashion over fifty" posts lead me to believe that I should care more about my closet.

I took one of the tips from the capsule wardrobe manifesto and began seeing how often I wore certain pieces of clothing and what I tended to gravitate toward. (This started in September.) If I wore something, once it came out of the laundry I hung it on the hanger facing the opposite direction. At the end of September, anything I hadn't worn (that was September-ish), I put on the rack in the basement. If I don't go looking for it in the next two weeks, it gets a ticket out the door.

October's priority is to take those pieces (and the pieces I have yet to drag down from the attic) and put together some appropriate outfits.

Therein lies the dilemma.


I am of the mistaken belief that I look something like this.
I never looked like this.

Sure, I was young and cute once, which is why I keep my sweet DL around--he can remember when I was young and cute. As you get older, it's always good to have a witness who remembers.



(Young and cute. That baby will soon be getting his PhD, if all goes as it should.)

But I'm wondering: what works for formerly cute people? I have always felt like we should just fade into the background and let the new cute people take over.



My daughter (not her real name), the next generation of cute.

This is a problem with which I have wrestled for a very long time. I wrote about it on my old blog (which was on a platform that no longer exists, so that content is gone) in 2011, and I'm STILL wrestling with it. This weekend is full of more rain on top of the half-a-foot we've already had, and I'm going to do some more investigation trying to find that elusive post-cute style. 

Lawd willing and the crick don't rise.

20 comments:

Rita C. said...

Well, the crick is risin' in my neck of the woods, so I would recommend wellies today! Those booties are too cute to get soaked. (The whole outfit is cute).

I generally keep summer and winter go-to uniforms uniform these days (capris or jeans, tees, vests and scarves), mostly because I may find myself either hauling things for the antique mall or in the garden, in mulch beds and dirt. My sisters and I always refer to our mom, who dressed to the nines until her death, even if just to go to the post office daily. And only wore flats when she went to the doctor (who reprimanded her for still wearing heels). :)

Having said that, I still have far too many clothes from past work career and ballroom dancing that need to go!

Linda at French Hollow said...

Oh my gosh!! I go through the exact process every time the seasons change - what to keep what to lose - did I wear that even once last season - should I be caught ever wearing that again - I give up, where is my mu-mu?!

Bliss said...

Well jimminy crickets I need the advice now, stat. And don't forget to include the formerly cute, still short, a bit pudgy wardrobe help too.

Vickie @ Ranger 911 said...

I love this post! Since I wear uniforms to work, my wardrobe consists mainly of jeans and hoodies these days, but I've slowly been adding a few trendy pieces and I have actually taken the tags off and worn them out in public! I figure at our age, it's now or never. You're as young as you feel! You're still pretty cute, so go for it!

I bought a new full-length mirror a few years ago and when I looked at myself I thought I've been way too critical and I didn't have any extra weight on me at all. I left home each day with a new spring in my step! Then our youngest daughter came to stay for the weekend and commented on my magical "skinny" mirror. I still use it. :o)

babsinmass said...

Thanks, Kirby. I could start a "wine-fest" on this subject, but I don't drink....I bought three, yes, three pairs of black pants last week and returned two of them. Why did I think I needed ANOTHER pair of black pants, why did I buy three pairs of black pants, and why oh, why do pants sold in the same store I bought them from before fit differently this year (same style name)? My closet has some hangers facing backwards, too, I just can't seem to pull the trigger on some of the pieces I still fundamentally like, just haven't worn (and spent a small fortune buying). Oh well. Being over fifty, no longer cute, we are in good company.
And that Japanese author's book is somewhere in my bedroom in the pile of books to be read this year or maybe next.

babsinmass said...

Oh, Kirby! I bought three, yes three pairs of black pants last week. I returned two of them. What ever was I thinking? One pair was the same style as a pair I bought last year, but fit so differently. When I returned them I was lectured by the sales associate on the different "fits" the store carried. No chance in interrupting her and telling her I was aware of that fact and had bought the exact same pair of pants the year before and had no trouble fitting into them. NO LONGER CUTE-but not dumb!
I have that Japanese author's book in my bedroom. It's in the pile of books to be read this year. Maybe, I'll take the cover off and put on backwards and if I don't read it I'll donate it. If it works for hangers and clothes, maybe it will work for books?
Stay dry.
babs

Art and Sand said...

I did a pretty good job of "cute" when I was teaching. I wore skinny jeans & boots, cute dresses and then I had my signature Converse shoes. My volleyball team insisted that I give them each a pair of my Converse when I retired so they must have been working! But now, my uniform is literally Patagonia shorts, a tee and flip flops. When we do have cooler days, I don yoga pants with a long sleeved tee. It's boring, but easy.

Art and Sand said...

I did a pretty good job of "cute" when I was teaching. I wore skinny jeans & boots, cute dresses and then I had my signature Converse shoes. My volleyball team insisted that I give them each a pair of my Converse when I retired so they must have been working! But now, my uniform is literally Patagonia shorts, a tee and flip flops. When we do have cooler days, I don yoga pants with a long sleeved tee. It's boring, but easy.

Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

You can still wear those clothes, Kirby...it's all in your mind that you can't! A few simple adjustments like the length of the shirt and maybe not so much bulk in the scarf. Looser jeans, because breathing is important. I know exactly what you mean about the closet...I have been slowly getting rid of so many things that I just never wear. In this season of my life, I am all about comfort but still want to feel good and look good when I decide to venture out of my pajamas.

Cassie @ Primitive & Proper said...

ok so here is what i think.... let go of the word "cute." let the youngsters have it! it's not for us anymore. choose new age appropriate adjectives and put yourself there... own your looks and style. i have friends who are very fashion savvy so they help me, but i let go of the word cute for myself a couple of years ago. i don't think it fit me anymore at the stage of my life i am in. it does, however, suit your daughter as well as mine. my friends and i now use the word foxy to compliment each other.... and beyond that the words i like are striking, and charming. i especially love the latter because it implies to me that you also have a winsome personality.

Rose L said...

In my head I am still young, about 23, and look it, and then I see me in a mirror and tears well up in my eyes. I wish I could wear the cute clothing made for the younguns, but sadly, at 63, I have to wear "age appropriate" clothing. *sigh*
I am sure Mr. Gunn would take one look at my wardrobe and shake his head, but I do the best I can do! Now if I LOOKED 23 , I would have no problem in dressing with style!

laura@notatrophywife.com said...

Ask "daughter." My guess she has LOTS of ideas! I find if I just lie and tell my daughter what I am wearing is from a Northwest based store, she loves it! laura@notatrophywife.com

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

I just dress like my 30 something daughters with a bit of restraint! My Fall outfit consists of skinny/regular jeans, boots or Orthaheels (cute orthotic shoes!), a scarf and a sweater of some sort. Oh, and I do wear camo once in a while....from the men's department. I found the cutest jacket there!

queenopearls said...

Okay, Kirby, I'm a heretic. Leave out the late teens and the average woman has a span of about 20 years of "cute". WTH? There's a whole lot more to life than emulating a brief 20 years of a life. Kick it up a notch and wear what makes YOU feel grand. I fuggedabout the limited view of life. Your uniqueness shines through and THAT is waht is radiant!!! Radiant trumps cute 24/7. :) That 20 years span age group, for the most part, doesn't have the depth of experience to have a grasp of "radiant". Go forth and be radiant! :)

Linda @ it all started with paint said...

I think Cassie has a really good point - and one that hit home for me too. Yes, I miss the cute. I spent my whole life as cute. That's how people in high school described me. That's how people I worked with described me. But I have to let it go. Because wrinkles and sagging skin and graying hair just aren't cute. Period. So now I'm thinking we need to be "stylish" and "elegant" so when people see us (because we truly need to stop fading into the background) they can aspire to look as stylish and elegant as we do when they are our age. We need to be role models for all the cute girls so they know what comes next! I know, I know. Easier said than done. Plus, I've been carrying around a bunch of extra weight so right now I'm just feeling dumpy. And dressing that way too ...

Ugh!

:) Linda

Andrea said...

You can solve this for us Kirby, I know you can...I'll be sitting here in my Old Navy shirt and Gap jeans waiting!

karen@somewhatquirky said...

I was doing good until the meno-tube set in. I was never "cute" so it's not a problem to let go of. I have had a much harder time letting go of not being "hot" anymore. If I had to dress for work every day like you I would have some serious figuring out to do. Last year I bought some long cardigans and new leggings. I feel ok when I wear them but I'm certainly no style queen. I agree with Cassie that you have to find a new way to define looking good. Clothes just don't interest me that much so it's hard to put the time and attention into it. I do still like a good shoe though!

Marie Blackburn said...

Oh oh, I think this menopausal used to be cute but turned don't give a crap after 50 paint encrusted yoga pants and oversized t-shirt gal needs a serious intervention. Perhaps I've veered so far off the fashion wagon that I need medical intervention. I do like the scarf on your fashion board...there's a start.

Feral Turtle said...

You're still cute Kirby!!!

Sweet Posy Dreams said...

Now, see, I think the advantage to being middle-aged is that I don't have to care much anymore what I look like. I figure if I am clean and have on basic pants, a cardigan, and earrings, I'm good to go. On a really motivated day, I might even put on a little make-up. ;)

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