Wednesday, August 19, 2015

For all my peeps...you got this!

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A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away...

                             I had children.


Those little ones were the light of my life (sorry, DL).  I was 'mommy' first, last, and always.  I was fortunate enough to stay home full-time, and I made the most of that by taking them to the mall (to play in the fountains and eat at the food court) or the movies (The Lion King is really Hamlet, y'all!) or Polo Park (where I was assured the swings were better than anywhere else). If someone had paid me a nickle for every time I poured vinegar over baking soda to cause a "'splosion," I never would have had to go back to work to pay for college.


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But do you know what happens?

              You blink.

                             And all of a sudden, they're driving themselves to the mall, going to movies with friends, and Polo Park becomes a distant memory. 



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Then they leave.


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Sometimes it's just for the day, sometimes for a month, sometimes for a year...
                    
                         It doesn't matter.  They take what's left of your breaking heart with them.


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But while you are falling to pieces like a sodden piece of cardboard, just remember what they were like, those new adventures. Remember the infinite possibilities that stretched out before you when you were young and taking that first sweet bite of freedom.  Remember that someone YOU loved was going through the same set of feelings that you are now.

                  Go ahead. Call your momma, if you are fortunate enough to still have her to call.  Call a friend who has been through it.  Pour yourself a big glass of whatever it is that you pour when you want to drown your sorrows and get on the phone.  Don't text or e-mail...call.


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Hang in there, mommas.  To everything there is a season, and this is their time to spread those wings and soar.  Your nest might be empty, but your heart will never be.

17 comments:

Andrea said...

I wasn't going to cry today…at least not before 7 a.m. This was beautiful Kirby and the photos were very soothing!

Laura @ Top This Top That said...

I just love this. I will be more then hapoy to aend the kids up your way so you can have more firsts. Just say the word.

Linda @ it all started with paint said...

I'm trying to keep those tears at bay, my friend. But your post had them pouring forth! Beautiful post. And I needed that today! :)

Rita C. said...

So sweet, Kirby. Oh, how I miss my mom. And fall can be such a melancholy time. These are beautiful images. Love the textile pumpkins with life-like vines of string.
You must feel like that blinking mom, over and over again, being an educator. Some, I'm sure, you can't wait to see go, but others, not so much. And I bet they call you, don't they?

Mel@Mellywood's Mansion said...

Even though none of mine are out of the house, I look at my little two and wonder where the years went when the older ones cuddled in bed on cold mornings with me. I think I'm appreciating the younger ones because I know it's a short time I'll have this.

Feral Turtle said...

Well said Kirby. Gorgeous pics!

Sweet Posy Dreams said...

So true. Our grown-up kids turned out fine and I'm proud of both of them, but, oh, sometimes I remember their chubby toddler faces and it breaks my heart. Several months ago I had a dream that my son was about two and I was holding him in my arms. I woke up grieving that it wasn't true.

Decor To Adore said...

My youngest starts 8th grade on Monday. This realization led to near panic I have in essence just 5 more years. I plan on making the most of them.
I hope you are enjoying every inch of summer. Thank you so very much for your friendship. It is a true treasure to me.

Rose L said...

Well said.
I hold on to the memories I have of my adopted son, which were wonderful until he hit puberty. His adoptive mother was a drug addict and drank alcohol, and his first few days of life were spent going through withdrawals.
But I do have wonderful memories to treasure even though he took the same route of his adoptive mother and I have not had any contact for 3 years now. I always hold him in my prayers each day.

Sharon @ mrshinesclass said...

Lovely post, Kirby! One that this momma can certainly relate to as our daughter entered that driving herself to the mall stage, and I was reminded of our trips to the carousel and the "Tree" at the mall so long ago. Monday she starts her Junior year of high school and it's hitting me how little time we have left with her at home.

Thank you for the encouragement.

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

Oh so true. I am fortunate enough to have my daughters close by and get to see my grandchildren. My relationship with them is better since they moved out!! My son is a homebody. We may be renting his room back to him when he turns 18!!

Heidi @ Decor & More said...

What a sweet post, Kirby! My kiddos keep coming back, so I have no idea when that empty nest will be, but I know it's a "someday" thing. And I'll miss them then I know. :)
xo Heidi

Diva Kreszl said...

Yes, learning to discover who I am without my children, so much of my identity wrapped up each each beautiful child! I am embracing each new stage for them, exciting to see their lives unfold. I am now blessed to be a grandma and loving each new miracle opening up in my life!

Marie Blackburn said...

Such a beautifully written post, Kirby. That was me last summer and a year later I still need that glass of wine once in awhile. But, there is so much joy in watching them spread their wings and fly!

tana macdonald said...

it's like you are sitting on a sofa in my heart and head speaking my words. I wept. Good to know I am not alone <3

Jane@Bluebird1959 said...

Oh my, this was a tearjerker! I was just thinking this morning that tomorrow will be one month that we dropped our one and only at Virginia Tech for a two year grad school program...a long, long way from Wisconsin! Sure do miss those Lion King and "splosion" days. Such a touching post for all of us mamas out there. Thanks for stopping by my blog and for your kind comments! Jane

Cindy DIYbeautify said...

Such a beautiful post...I just waved goodbye to my son as he drove off for his Sophomore year of college...trying to savor the few remaining 'moments' with the ones still at home.

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