Sunday, June 8, 2014

The time has come, the walrus said…


A wonderful friend of mine (and former Haven roommate) has decided that her blog needs a “do-over.”  She is a busy wife, mother, and kitten mommy and she enjoys reading the blogs of other wives, moms and crafters. But she’s found that she’s more interested in their kids and activities than she is in their crafts and DIY projects.  She’s invested in their lives.
So from now on, she’s going to blog about life.

You know life, don’t you?  It’s that thing that isn’t camera-ready or color-coordinated or pin-worthy.  It’s that real thing that makes you want to tear your hair out or weep or laugh until you weep. 
And my wonderful friend (and others just like her) got me thinking.

I LOVE my DIY blogging friends.  I love to watch them take a circa-1982 kitchen and turn it into something wonderful.  I love serious bee-otches taking serious marble tile and making a bathroom seriously shine.  I love folks who’s choice of color balance is spot-on.  I love scale.
Boy, do I love scale.  (Unless it’s weighing my 54 year-old body.)


But I love my life (and everyone in it) more.  Brandywine is home, but it’s a very slowly-evolving home—mainly because it takes a lot of time and/or money, and right now there’s a shortage of both.  So while I want to link up and celebrate all that we have accomplished….well, that’s slim pickin’s. (Who was also a great western movie actor, but I digress.) Yeah, I can occasionally do the tour of my hydrangeas or the “Hey!  Here’s a curtain” post, but….well, I can’t do what other folks do.  I’m busy trying to keep rural NC kids from dropping out of school.


So, if you want a great table setting, go to Pat.  Want to laugh while you do a project?  Bliss. If you want color-coordination, go to Paint. You love a good pallet project?  Space is great.  If you want a vignette?  There are a skillion of folks out there with vignettes. Something a little bit different?  My honorary niece is the best.


But me?
I’ll be here to have your back.

When your 19 year-old daughter decides (because she is an ADULT, dammit!) to move in with a 30 year-old miscreant who still thinks he MIGHT have a chance to be a rock star…I’ll be there with a tumbler of Jack and ginger and we will discuss the wisdom of just letting it run its course because it’s sort of like teething.  Only with young adults.


I’ve got your back.

When your husband looks at you when that “feminine pain due to ladyparts dryness” commercial comes on and he says “So you WEREN’T lying”—I’ve got your back.


When all around you, women appear to be living perfect lives in perfect homes with their perfect families, you can stop by and take a look at what fresh hell I’ve got over here and then you can feel better about your linoleum floor.  I’ve got your back AND a sixty-foot, half-dead magnolia that the tree man wants over 1200 dollars to take down.


Sure….I’ll occasionally get the bottle of Mod Podge out and smear it around.  I will probably get the half-torn-up hall bathroom remodeled during this decade.  Painting will occur.  But for right now, it’s an accomplishment to get the toilet paper roll changed. 


So instead of racing around to get something done to post on the blog…I’ll just be here until I need to get your back.
Kirbywan[1]
 Courtesy of Teen Wolf, who thinks I am going to save us all.  It’s a big job, but somebody’s gotta do it.



26 comments:

Suzan Oxenreider said...

I haven't been following you because of your DIY talents. I know, you are shocked. I have been following you because I love your view on things, events, life, whatev. So keep on keeping on. It's good to know someone has my back!

Andrea said...

Kirby-Wan! You've come to get us through the dark side! And not a moment too soon!

Cassie @ Primitive & Proper said...

i second suzan's emotion! i follow you because i like YOU. you are witty, funny, and real. so just keep being you.

Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

Teen Wolf here...I knew you'd come back to us.

reFresh reStyle said...

Love you Kirby :)
Debbie

Laura @ Top This Top That said...

you always make me laugh...and have my back. perfect!

Art and Sand said...

I was so afraid you were going to say you were going to quit blogging and take on another job so you could afford to pay for help in keeping Brandywine clean.

I go to certain people for color, certain people for gardens, certain people for crafts and to Kirby for laughs.

Shannon Fox said...

So you'll be like an online bloggers retreat? I think we all need that! Your wisdom and wit and winning.. and why we all love you. xo Shannon

Linda @ it all started with paint said...

Thank you Kirby for always having my back! I fell in love with you and your blog the first time I landed here and having been coming back ever since for your wit and wisdom. And for keeping it real. You keep us all grounded. Thank you for that!!

Oh, and I got your back too!

:) Linda

Deneen@dreaming-n-color said...

Love ya Kirby! Just keep being you. That's what we like.

Eliesa Prettelt said...

I laughed out loud about the lady parts dryness... :)
We do love you, just for being exactly who you are!

Marty Walden said...

Girl, you just need to write! We are totally okay with no projects or a bazillion projects. Just write about what you love and think and it will be a home run!

Mel@Mellywood's Mansion said...

My husband is still in the "why doesn't she ride horses, go surfing, and laugh like the women on tv while I'm "flo riding" but still nice to know you've got our backs. As for perfection, well it ain't my strong suit but I still pin pretty pictures and dream one day ill have clean marble walls and beautiful crown moulding instead of grubby subway brown tiles covered in leggos and fingerprints adorning my walls.

Feral Turtle said...

I love you cuz Man, Do You Know How To Dance! You and your blog rock Kirby! Cheers!

karen@somewhatquirky said...

Way to go Kirby! It's what you do best!

Danni@SiloHillFarm said...

Always good to know you've got our backs Kirby....and some Jack and Ginger!

Heidi @ Decor & More said...

I read you for YOU my friend! Can't think of anyone I'd like in my corner more than you! Thank you for being true to yourself! Peace and hugs, Heidi

laura@imnotatrophywife.com said...

I agree with Suzan's point! Thanks for the great post! I just posted a DIY curtain instead of a door! Ha!
laura

ART aka Anna-Ruth Taynton said...

I am with ya! I will be there for you...with three teens that know it all...and my bottle of Patron...;)

Bliss said...

Can I be a contributor? If for no other reason than you needing to break out a bottle of Jack. And I'm glad you 'splained that was an Obe Wan robe, I thought it was your face in a hot dog bun.

Karen Wren said...

Love you! Keep writing...no projects needed. You make me feel that I am not alone in this stage of life. Love the lady parts comment!

Tuula @ The Thrifty Rebel said...

You're so awesome Kirby! Thanks so much for being a voice of reason.

Suzan Sweatman said...

Fabulous post Kirby - loved every word of it !
( too funny about the " dry spell " lmao
XOXO

Pat said...

Just when I thought I would tear my hair out if I did one more pretend table, I came here and saw you have my back and gave me a shout out. Thank you for that and for giving me courage to keep on keeping on the Back Porch.
I appreciate your writing, Kirby! Please continue!

Shirley@Housepitality Designs said...

I loved every word of this post!....I often wondered how so many of the "mommy bloggers" do it . . to keep up with a busy family with their activities and then find the time to blog is very puzzling to me, as I know I could not have done that...so to the ones who can do all of that, I give them a standing ovation....When you come to the end of your life, you will not consider that kitchen makeover much of an accomplishment, you will think about the lives of the many children you teach and mentor and how you were able to changes their lives for the better....

Andi Filante said...

Oh excellent. What happens when you just don't feel like doing or saying anything, Kirby-wan? I just basically don't turn on my computer.

Did I do that right??

-andi

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