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Sometimes, I am so
There are people who don't really know me who assume I have always been this way. Not true! For the first forty years of my life, I was pretty mild-mannered, not wanting to rock the boat. I tried to stay away from confrontation. Didn't like conflict. Wanted just to go along to get along.
Now? Not so much.
If I think you're wrong, I will let you know. Politely, of course.
If I am wrong, I'll also let you know...and then I'll smack myself upside the head to let you know that I know. That I am wrong.
And if I want something...I'll ask for it.
This is a big change for me. When I was younger, I just assumed people knew what I needed and they would make sure I got whatever it was. (After all, it works for babies, doesn't it?) Why shouldn't my husband understand that I need him to pay attention to me? Why shouldn't he know he should take me out once in awhile? Why don't coworkers intuitively "get" that I am interested in serving on a committee?
Well, I have learned that if I want something, I need to tell somebody in language that is clear, not open to interpretation. I assumed folks could "read between the lines." I learned that most cannot.
My example: I am taking part in the Blogging Without Borders challenge this summer, and one of my concerns is that I have too much
So what did I do, now that I have less estrogen/more testosterone? I googled and found this designer's "media liason" and asked if I could use famous designer's name. (As an aside: if any of y'all needs a "media liason," I will totally do that. I would rock at that job. I'm going to put together a "media liason" resume as soon as I post this. I would call myself "media liason" if only to pronounce 'liason' with that nasally '-on' sound, like they do in France.)
I was rather surprised to get my answer as quickly as I did. (Sometimes you wait weeks for a reply, at which point I either scrap the idea or go ahead with it without express permission. It depends on how much money I think that person has to invest in a legal battle.) What does this media liason say? That the quote I mention is from seven or eight years ago, and his/her perspective may be different now. The media liason would like to discuss something more current.
Okay, cool... then let's set up a time for an interview, and the famous designer and I can chat on Skype (as if I know how to use it) or on the phone. But that doesn't really help for this blog. But that's not what I said. I said: 'All I want to do is mention that once upon a time, (he/she) tried to edit (his/her) living space and then had regrets. I'd be happy to include a current quote, if (he'd/she'd) like to provide one...or devote an entire blog to what (she/he) does now with (his/her) brand ("branding" is also very big in blogging right now). I don't need to use (her/his) name for the piece I'm working on now, if (she'd/he'd) rather not.' Then I mentioned that this designer might appreciate a shout-out, along with a link to his/her website.
I'm not participating.
I'm starting to act like a man.